Change: The Constant We Keep Resisting

Earth is a planet of transformation. Change isn’t only inevitable but is the one thing you can count on. From the moment you are born, you begin shifting physically, mentally, emotionally. It happens in obvious ways like aging and in more subtle ways like how your beliefs and perspectives evolve over time. Whether you invite it or resist it, change is the most faithful companion and cannot be avoided.

Yet, for something so constant, change still makes most of us uncomfortable. Many have been taught that change is a threat, a sign that something’s gone wrong. That if things ended or shifted, then we have failed. That what was, was somehow better and we brace for the worst.

That belief is distorted, and fundamentally untrue. Often, it’s not the change itself that hurts, but how we interpret it. Beliefs shape our experience. If we expect the worst, we tend to notice and attract more of it.

If you look at nature, seasons shift, tides roll in and out, trees grow and shed. Everything is in motion. Anything that doesn’t change dies. Why then do we expect to remain the same? Change is a part of life, and we will be pushed towards it regardless of our resistance. The resistance only serves to make the journey less pleasurable.

Fearful of Change

Resistance to change often stems from deeper insecurities — fears of the unknown, losing control, or not being able to trust ourselves. Here is a perspective shift:

Ø  What if the unknown isn’t something to fear, but something to explore?

Ø  What if things aren’t falling apart, but falling into place?

Ø  What if you remember that no matter what happens, you are already equipped to rise through it?

When we meet change with curiosity instead of control, everything shifts. We stop seeing life as something happening to us and begin living in harmony with it.  We step into co-creative power. If you changed your perspective, what would your experience with change be? I implore you to pause and answer that question truthfully.

Of course, the process of changing a belief takes practice. After first acknowledging the old belief, reframe it: “Change is safe. Change is good. Change is aligned.” Then the most important step is to live the belief by taking brave steps even when you’re terrified. Breathe through the discomfort and open to possibility, not just probability. over what happens, only how we respond to it. If treated with curiosity instead of fear, we can influence the outcome toward a more positive result.

Here is my lived example.

Years ago, I lost what I thought was my dream job, right after buying my first car. In my fear of not knowing how I was going to make the monthly payment, I agreed to rent out my vehicle. The person I rented it to crashed it, leading to thousands in damages which was thankfully covered by insurance. As soon as the car was fixed, I ended the lease.

About two months later I was leaving the country for my first contract working onboard a cruise ship. An opportunity that completely transformed my life. In hindsight, what looked like a disaster was actually a divine redirection.

Meeting Change with Curiosity and Trust

I know now: my fear didn’t stop the change, it only made the transition harder. Had I  been more curious and less afraid, I might have spared myself the emotional spiral. But I did what I knew then and that’s ok.

Fast forward to now. A few months ago, my current car’s engine died on the highway. Same kind of disruption, but this time, I didn’t panic. I stayed grounded. Even though the warranty had technically expired, it was still honored, and I was given a rental at no extra cost. It worked itself out because I trusted it would.

As always, courage is required. Change doesn’t necessarily get easier, it’s that you get better at handling it. You learn to trust yourself and stop assuming that discomfort equals danger. When life shakes, remember it’s making room. Change doesn't have to be the constant we need to keep resisting.

Change is safe. Change is good. Change is sacred.

Let that be your new truth.